late night musings on perfection

I saw something tonight that read: "I don't want perfect, I want honest."

And I thought, yes, that is a good thing to want. I like that.

But then I thought, is this true? Is honest what people really want in a friend, a lover, a sibling, a parent?

I think so, yes. No one wants to be lied to. No one wants someone who fakes to please them or exaggerates the truth. No one likes downright lies.

I even think that people would - and do - say "I don't want perfect." Someone having faults is what makes them human. No one wants someone who is so flawless in comparison to them that they look like a loser. "Perfect" people are hard to relate to.

My question, though, is: what do people say in their heads? Heads are funny things. Many times they does not agree with what the mouths thinks is good to pronounce. So when people say "I don't want perfect," I think the head is saying "I. want. perfect."

What else would move people to judge others? What else instills expectations of other people? Why else would it be hard to forgive?

There is hurt, and then there is a mistake. One of the most beneficial things a human being can do for himself is to recognize them both.

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